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A screaming woman in the background. Angry abuse from a male mouth. Sounds coming from your neighbour who is a factory worker. The drunken man is hitting her and using foul language, her cjildren and screaming. From the comfort of our homes we watch with a shake of our head and say these people just don’t learn. This is just achiched situation. A working class family drunken husband beating up his wife for money, but when it comes to domestic violence there is more…so much more. Domestic violence has been experienced and documented across nations and cultures throughout the world in all classes and communities. Domestic violence is a fact of human life- a universal phenomenon.
Domesticviolence.org defines domestic violence as thus – “Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.”

Though it is seen as a worldwide phenomenon it is especially prevalent in societies where the woman is considered subservient. It is a criminal behavior and it is to express their r power and control over their dependants. Psychologists assert that people deal with their own insecurities and inadequacies by abusing and controlling the lives of others within the safe precincts of domestic walls. The domestic situation usually makes the abused very vulnerable and fragile.
Stats from domesticviolence.in says that even in a “developed country like America also Women are six times more likely to get violated by intimate partners than men. Surveys taken from time to time have revealed 305 women get violated in Barbados, 29% in Canada, 34% in Egypt, 35% in New Zealand, 21% in Switzerland and 22% in United States. Surveys done in specific areas have also revealed figures as high as 50 and 70%”

“ In India there is a crime against women in every three minutes, one rape every twenty-nine minutes and one recorded case of dowry death in every seventy-seven minutes. Cases of cruelty meted out by husbands and in laws are seen in every nine minutes. Patriarchal terrorism where one partner uses economic and social power to maintain control over another human is very common in India and other Asian countries due to the subservient status of women.”

So what can be done domestic violence will never be fully eliminated from society unless society refuses to tolerate it. This will require an internal change in the basic nature of society world over, beginning with the recognition of the worth of every human being as an individual. If the law does not buck up in terms of implementing punishment on those who violate others within the sacred walls of the institution called family and home, the weaker will continue to be violated and abused by the stronger – physically, mentally, materially and spiritually.
So what can we do about it. Stop tolerating it. Sounds simple na. But that’s it. If we recognize that even women are equal to men that they are human beings with feeling and not jus a receptacle of anger of the men in life it is a step forward. And the law must come down strongly on men who abuse their wives and daughters. Unless the change comes from within the society there can be no help.
Meanwhile chek this out it is but one way of stopping domestic violence.


February 24, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | 2 Comments

Campus Connection

The sexy emcee came sashaying down the catwalk at the Madras University Auditorium. As the spotlight focused on her she split into a broad smile and said – Welcome to Times Campus Connect, brought to you by Hindustan College of Arts and Science. Yes people it was culturals time at HCAS and what a time it was. For two days at the madras university campus I had sooo much fun. It was like being back in college especially considering I did not have to take part in anything. All I had to do was sit back and enjoy and of course shout. To make matters even more special I had a likeminded company, my junior at college and my colleague at work Hari Priya. The huge audiorium with a capacity of 3500.people was packed. The shouting crowd the pulsating music the flashing lights… wow. To make a wonderful day even more special our chief guest came, and it was none other than actor Arya looing absolutely drop dead gorgeous. How the crowd screamed. Mercifully short speeches later the culturals was officially declared open. To start out with the there was a quasi – host dance performance by Spring Boots from our sister college Hindustan University. After that extremely well done show of Rasputin by Boney M the competitions began. Some good performances some bad performances at the end of the day it was entertaining. There were a lot of celebrities walking in and out the whole day including one of my favourite singers, Naresh Iyer. Specially note worthy were the pro shows Reflection by Deiv’s dance troupe and a rock concert by Junkyard groove. Two electrifying performances and oh my god what a time we had. Well at the end of our two day cultural extravaganza all that a person could do was ask could we have more???

February 4, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | 4 Comments